Like many of you, my children share a room. Sharing a room teaches valuable lessons about simplicity, getting along and life. However, trying to fit all the toys and clothes for multiple children in a small room and leave room for playing is a challenge.

Rearranging the furniture for optimal floor space helps, but pursuing simplicity in the toy and clothes collection is essential.

Ten ways to simplify the toys:

Adoring grandparents. Generous friends. Thrift store finds. Christmas & birthdays.

Before you know it, your child’s room can be overflowing with toys. Toys are meant to be played with. To loosely paraphrase Solomon, “where no children are, the toys are picked up, but happily playing children are a great blessing.” (Prov. 14:4)

Boy building blocks

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However, more toys do not necessarily equal more happiness. A few sticks and pebbles are all some children in the world have. I’m not sure American kids are any happier with their buckets and buckets of toys.

Here are a ten ways that I try to balance fun and simplicity.  (You can see pictures of my children’s room here, though I’ve rearranged it since then.)

  1. Distinguish between durable and disposable toys. Some of my children’s toys I hope my grandchildren will play with, like Duplos. Some toys however (say the Easter eggs from the neighbor) I consider disposable and only keep for a few weeks. After the fun has worn off they are donated or tossed.
  2. Choose neutral toys, when possible. Dolls and trucks are practically indispensable parts of a toy collection, but you don’t need a pink and blue version of everything!
  3. Say “No!” Just because you’re offered free hand-me-downs or find a toy for a quarter at a yard sale, doesn’t mean your child needs it. Sometimes, you just need to say “no!” (Or let your children play with them for a few weeks and then pass them on.)
  4. Rotate the toys so that there are less toys out and they get “new” toys regularly.
  5. Set mess perimeters. I mentioned this in my post on clutter, but having a few guidelines for where and when toys can be played with makes such a difference! We have set clean-up times several times daily as well as a “no toys in the living room after dinner” rule. Play with one toy “set” at a time, then put it away (we’re working on this one!)
  6. Keep birthdays & Christmas gifts simple: Laura Ingalls was happy with a tin cup and a penny. You can show your love without going overboard. Choose quality over quantity.
  7. Gifts are a way many grandparents, other family members or friends show their love. However, sometimes the influx of gifts can get overwhelming, especially if you’re dealing with multiple children in a small room. This is a sensitive issue and may not be wise or kind in all situations, but  if possible, respectfully address overly generous gift-givers. My children have been blessed with grandparents that are so thoughtful of my children and me with their gifts. But, if you are getting overwhelmed by gifts, try to find a kind way to encourage gifts that will bless your child and you. A frazzled mom is not a good gift! A few possible ideas: offer hints for toys your child would treasure, let them know that what your child has plenty of toys and would most like would be to spend time with them (a trip to the zoo, museum, etc.) or set up an Amazon wish list for your child. (Remember though, never wound someone who loves your child over gifts!)
  8. Embrace the simple things. Boxes for boats, blankets for forts, chairs for houses. Children are so creative and content! Often, it’s the parent not the child who thinks they need more.
  9. Donate, sell or toss unused toys. Clearing out the toys that aren’t loved makes room to really enjoy the treasured toys. If you find toys consistently taken out and forsaken (for you to step on ;) ) it’s time for them to go!
  10. Get outside. Let them play with the sticks and pebbles… and maybe even take a dip in the mud.

This post is getting dreadfully long. We’ll have to tackle the kids’ clothes Wednesday…

(Thank you Jenn, from the lovely blog The Purposeful Mom for inspiring this post with your comment! )

What about you? How do you handle all the toys? I would *love* your ideas (especially since we plan to add little Meg to the kids’ room soon)! 

Linking up at Handful of Heart and Better Mom Monday 

As I talked about yesterday, hospitality is a command, whether you live in a small home or not.  Opening up our homes is a way to show “generosity and kindness” (as Webster puts it) to friend or stranger.

When we first moved into our little home, I never dreamed I’d one day feed eleven guests (plus our five) for lunch. Or think it was fun.

As I’ve tried to practice hospitality in our little home, here are some things I’ve learned along the way.Things that work for me:

Don’t be afraid to invite guests over: This may seem silly, but when we first moved into our little home, I was afraid to have company over. Pride played into it, but I also thought who would want to leave their homes and come hang out at my little place?  Maybe you have thought the same thing. But most people still want to come. Even large families! After all, they’re coming to see you, not your home! Some might even find the small home cozy and nostalgic.

Clear out the clutter: If you want to fill your home with people, there won’t be as much room for stuff. Clear out the clutter and make sure the things you have make your home a better place to be. Plus, the less you have, the less there is to make messes with!

Get creative: If seating is an issue, turn buckets or boxes into makeshift stools and pull them up to the table for kids. Turn your living room into the dining area. Eat outside. Make it an indoor picnic.

Some activities just don’t work in a small home, but many do: Seated group games don’t take much space. A long walk is fun if it starts to get cramped. Sometimes we turn our room into a personal theater for the kiddos so the adults can talk quietly.

Keep the menu manageable: Remember Mary and Martha? Don’t focus so much on food that you don’t have time to enjoy your company.

Make a plan: Pick a few tried and true meals and desserts that you can rotate for company. Write out a menu. Try not to experiment on guests. [Don't ask me how I know!]

Be prepared:[Try to] keep the home somewhat orderly. Keep easy to heat up food in the freezer for unexpected or last minute company. Some cookie dough freezes wonderfully (like the dough for these Almond Crunch Cookies.) Freeze the dough in wax paper and when a friend drops by, slice and bake. Soon you’ll have hot homemade cookies to serve.

Expect imperfection: Hospitality is not about putting on a perfect front. Be real. Sometimes the meal won’t turn out exactly how you wanted. Sometimes the dishes will be stacked high in the sink or your toddler will “decorate” the living room right before guests arrive. It’s okay.

Embrace the adventure: Warn your guests ahead of time that your home is small. My guests won’t get a guest room. They may not even get a chair. Enjoy squeezing a few more people into your home. Laugh. Make memories. It takes very little space to have a good time.

Prepare your self: The last few minutes before guests, arrive I’m usually flying around the house trying to get the last few things warmed up or put away. But, whenever I take time (even a minute or two) to pray, glance in the mirror and prepare myself, I am much better prepared to show real hospitality to others.

Most importantly, love your guests. Show them how glad you are to have them in your home. To loosely paraphrase Solomon, a simple meal served with love is better than a fancy feast and hatred (Prov. 15:17) Remember why you invited them over in the first place: you love them and want to get to fellowship together.

What about you? How do you show hospitality? Any suggestions for entertaining in a small house?

photo by agamamedia

According to Western standards, we live in a small home. Often, when first-time guests walk into our home, they glance around with a look of you do realize you have three children, right?

Yes, we are aware of that fact. We know it’s crowded. Although it’s a tight squeeze, we rather like our little house and think staying here is best for our family at the moment. 

Whether by choice or necessity, many of us live in small[ish] homes.

Hospitality is still a Scriptural command. No matter how small your home is, you can still show hospitality.

Maybe you can’t lay a spread like Martha Stewart. Maybe your guests, like mine, will be eating on the couch with barely enough room on the coffee table for plates, much less a centerpiece.

Maybe, despite constant scrubbing, your cracked old linoleum never looks quite clean.

Maybe you can’t prepare a gourmet dinner with less than two feet of counter space.

It’s okay.

My friend Heather, from Raising Mighty Arrows, recently posted about challenges we women face in being hospitable. Worry and pride are special challenges when working from a small home.

But hospitality is not about impressing guests with incredible decorating or cooking skills or a large beautiful home. Hospitality is about sharing and fellowship and friendship and love.

Webster defined hospitality as “The act or practice of receiving and entertaining strangers or guests without reward, or with kind and generous liberality.” Kindness and generosity can be shown in the tiniest of places.

Those with large homes can more easily host a large Christmas crowd, but if your house is as small as (or smaller than) mine, there are still ways you can bless others by opening up your home.

You can still invite a friend over for lunch to fellowship over a hot bowl of soup, provide a college student with a home-cooked meal or turn your living room into a somewhat comfortable campground for friends passing through.

You can still bless a friend. A very hospitable friend (and amazing cook) said she sees it as part of her ministry to give other busy moms a break by cooking dinner for them. As a recipient of her hospitality, I know just what a blessing enjoying someone else’s [simply amazing] cooking can be.

Opening your home to friends and strangers is a command and a privilege.

Come back tomorrow as I share practical ideas (and a few things not to do!) when showing hospitality, especially if you live in a small home.

Linked up at Teach Me Tuesday and Domestically Divine

photo by agamamedia

Small homes don’t come with oodles of storage room. Old homes are often short on cupboards and closets. Combine the two and you’re left with small closets and few cupboards.

Have you ever wondered just how many items the modern home contains?

Our grandmothers have much to teach us. They didn’t depend on every new gadget that hit the market to run their homes.  Most of the shiny new contraptions aren’t worth the price tag. Carefully evaluate whether a new item will significantly help you become a more efficient or frugal or healthy homemaker before it ever enters the front door. This will dramatically cut down on the need for storage.

Simplicity is best.

Some items, however, are worth storing: Grains bought in bulk or a year’s worth of pasta purchased at a rock bottom price slash the grocery budget. A well stocked cupboard eliminates unnecessary trips to the store.

If you hope to have a large family, it would generally not make sense to get rid of the hand me downs. Storing a “bare minimum” collection of clothes saves considerably over the long run.

A gift stash makes last minute birthday parties or the event that crept upon you unaware (even though it was on the calender for a month) no cause for panic.

But of course, food stockpiles and old clothes take up space. Where should they be stored? There’s the obvious places like under the bed or behind-the-door racks. Here are other ways we’ve made limited storage work.

  • Build a shelf: it doesn’t need to be pretty, just sturdy. Most of my “pantry” sits behind the couch on a rough floor-to-ceiling shelf . Cover it up with a pretty cloth and it actually adds to the decor.
  • Keep the fridge and freezer full: even if something doesn’t need to be stored in the fridge, most items stay fresher. Plus, a full fridge cuts down on cooling costs. Air is more expensive to keep cool than a bag of flour. (An awful lot of food fits into a regular freezer.  If you don’t have room for a deep freeze, prioritize. Meats fluctuate in price considerably. A freezer full of rock bottom priced meat is a good investment. Brown hamburger, add the spices and sauce and you have dinner almost ready to pull out of the freezer.)
  • Use the bathtub: a dirty laundry baskets fits perfectly. The pile of clothes is out of sight but easy to get to.
  • Decorate with storage: Jars full of beans, rice or honey add a cute country charm. Hang your child’s cutest outfits from pegs on the wall.
  • 5 gallon buckets of grain double as sturdy movable stools for a toddler.
  • Fill the trunk: Light weight sports equipment, an umbrella stroller and the return/donate box fit well.

What other places do you store items?

Photo by Eva Schuster

Just before sitting down to continue this series, as I got Rosalind ready for her nap, she asked “Why don’t we have a little house?” She pressed her fingers together to make an ant’s sized home, then spread her arms wide, “We have a bi-i-i-i-i-i-i-i-g house. Right?”

Yes, it is a big house.

Compared to what we need, our home is big. Compared to 90% of the world, our home is big. Compared to the homes that many are grateful for, ours is a mansion.

Some days children have as much to teach us as we them, don’t they?

Now that we have established the fact that my title is false, this is how our big nursery works for us.

Keep the floor space clear: Avoid big bulky toys and focus on a simple selection of toys that store well and keep children entertained for hours. Duplos, dress up clothes and puzzles slide under the bed or fit in a toy chest easily. This leaves most of the room open for actually playing.

Stick with a simple wardrobe: Determine what you need to keep your children in clean clothes and then don’t stuff the closet and dresser with extra. A simple selection of quality outfits you (and the munchkins) like makes getting them dressed easy, keeps the clothes manageable and doesn’t take up much room!

Go outside: It’s more fun and healthy than staying cooped up inside. A game of tag or afternoon at the park doesn’t take an inch of space in a small (or bi-i-i-i-i-i-g) bedroom.

Stick with a neutral theme: At least if it’s a “nursery.” Trains, teddy bears or plaids in neutral colors work well for sons and daughters. Rosalind’s room was green and pink until William came along. Simply moving the pink to just around her bed and adding in chocolate as an alternate accent made it much more boy friendly (not that he really cares yet!)

What do you do to make the nursery more practical?

Part of Frugal Friday at Life as Mom

Photo by Eva Schuster

P.S. This weekend I’m finishing the switch from “girl’s room” to nursery, and will have before and after pictures up next week!

Welcome to my little kitchen!

A kitchen with barely three feet of counter space may work well for a bachelor, but when you have a family and make all your meals and breads and snacks from scratch, the limited space presents a challenge.

Besides the three feet of counter space, a washing machine, fridge, oven and table fill up the rest of the room snugly. At first, our new kitchen felt claustrophobic to me, but with a bit of creativity and organization, anyone can thrive in the little space.

Think up: Shelving is a great way to “add space” in a small kitchen. Joshua added a couple shelves above our table and it transformed the kitchen! Big decorative boxes are perfect for storing less used items like paper goods or snack foods, plus they add charm to the kitchen.

Glasses, jars of food and dishes all are pretty stored on shelves and free up cupboard space.

Limit the gadgets: Sort through your appliances and kitchen extras and only keep the items that are regularly useful.

Whenever possible, find multiple uses for items. For example, my big bowl doubles as the washing bowl. The large pot serves as a compost bucket when not full of soup.

Keep the counters cleared: Of course, the kitchen is the center of much of the domestic life. It is supposed to be used. But don’t permanently store items on the counters. Find an easily accessible spot for items (like the coffee maker) that are used consistently and put them away in between uses. It only takes a few seconds, but makes the kitchen more useable the rest of the day.

Do you have a small kitchen? How do you make it work for you?

Disclaimer: Of course, it is practically impossible to pinpoint a definition for a small house. A tiny home in modern America would be extravagant to medieval peasants or many around the world today.

 

Here I mean small in the American sense: a duplex with two little bedrooms and living room, a tiny bathroom and a kitchen with just barely enough room to squeeze in a few chairs and a table.

Cramped.

That’s how I felt when we first moved into this little duplex so that Joshua could attend law school. With just barely three feet of counter space, the kitchen was especially bad.

But over the past two years I’ve come to realize the blessings of less space: the impulse to accumulate stuff is balanced by the lack of room to store it and you are forced to be creative. Plus, limited space encourages communication and makes holding a grudge nearly impossible.

Before digging into specifics for each room, there are a few principles that work for the entire house.

Be content: Enough room is mostly a matter of the heart. We have way more than we need. Discontentment with a small home won’t disappear with a move. Choosing contentment makes even a small home seem big.

Gratefully accepting the room you have encourages you to be creative with it. Almost the moment I accepted the kitchen, I thought of simple (and obvious) ideas to make it more functional.

Simplify, simplify: Whether it’s the decorations or the children’s toys-keep it simple. Even when stuff is cheap or free evaluate whether it will really add to the peace and charm of the home. By keeping it simple, you are able to enjoy the things you truly love.

Continually evaluate what you have: pretend to be a visitor walking through the front door. Looking at the stuff through someone else’s eyes highlights things you don’t use anymore, the toys that really could be given away or sold … and the dust on top of that old shelf.

Keep things picked up: Homes are to be lived in. No home with little ones is always tidy, but unabated clutter wreaks havoc in small spaces. Determine a place for everything that you really love (and ruthlessly get rid of the rest!) and then make sure it gets put away. Even little children are able to put their own toys and clothes away. Tidiness not only makes the home more peaceful, it makes it feel roomy.

Do you live in a small home? How do you make it work for your family?

And no, that is not our house, isn’t it cute thought? Photo by Eva Schuster

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