A few months ago, I stood in my kitchen feeling totally overwhelmed.
I had offered to bring a meal to a friend, but couldn’t come up with a good dinner idea. All morning I’d stewed over what to make, and still hadn’t pinned down an idea.
Something needed to change.
That’s when I realized I was going about the whole thing wrong. Instead of focusing on the reason for making a meal in the first place (to bless a friend with dinner) I was stressed out because I just knew it wouldn’t be good enough.
Over the course of the afternoon, I realized that my heart needed to change.
- I needed to STOP worrying that my friend might think I wasn’t a good cook.
- I needed to STOP stressing over having it look like the meal from Pinterest.
- I needed to START seeking to serve my friend in love.
If you have ever stood in the middle of your kitchen wishing you hadn’t signed up to bring that meal because the thought it totally overwhelming, here are a few things that helped me.
Embrace the WHY
Why did you sign up to bring that meal in the first place?
Jesus serves His church with food: by making food spring from the earth & giving us of His body at the Lord’s supper. Sharing food is one way we can serve others too.
This is why we bring one another meals: to serve, to love, and to support. When serving others as we’ve been served by Jesus is the focus, a lot of the stress melts away.
Select Go-To Meals
The hard part for me isn’t actually making the meal, its’s deciding what to make in the first place. Select a handful of meals that you like to prepare, get generally good reviews, and freeze well as your go-to meals. Think back on the meals that you’ve received. Which ones did your family love the most?
Since many of our friends prefer gluten-free, two of my options cater to that. These are my meal options:
- Creamy Spinach & Chicken Alfredo
- GF Southwestern Chicken & Black Beans (it’s one of my favorite meals ever. Recipe coming soon!)
- GF Lentil Rice Casserole (this one was a favorite from our law school days. I like to dress it up now by cooking it in beef broth and adding shredded beef. My kids and I still love it as a vegetarian dish too though.)
Preparing breakfast is always a challenge for me when we’re sick or have a new baby, and the breakfast foods we’ve been given were such a huge blessing. When I can, I try to include a breakfast-y food, like hearty protein bars, whole wheat pumpkin muffins, or a jar of homemade granola.
Work the Go-To Meals into your Menu
I use a revolving monthly menu. It has made life SO much easier for me. Each week’s menu includes one of my go-to meals that I can easily double to bring to a new mom or sick friend.
I highly recommend working out a revolving menu, but even if you don’t have one, you can still incorporate one of your go-to meals into what you have planned for your family to eat that week.
Let Go of Perfectionism
A perfect meal for a friend includes a delicious main course, healthy green side, homemade bread of some sort, and a tasty dessert, delivered with a darling Pinterest-inspired presentation. Right?
And sometimes the “perfect” meal is a simple pasta dish thrown into a foil pan with the heating instructions scrawled on the top.
The point is serving a friend. Sometimes that might mean pouring your creativity into making it beautiful. Sometimes that might mean cheerfully welcoming a toddler’s help and smiling when your last egg cracks on the floor and all hope of dessert is lost.
Go Make Those Meals
As my heart has changed, making meals for others ceased to be a cause of stress and anxiety. Many of my friends are also young moms with lots of little ones in their homes. You know what I’ve realized? They’re not expecting perfection.
Making meals for each other is simply one more way of sharing this journey of life together. So stop stressing, make a plan,and serve your sisters.
What’s your favorite meal to share with a friend? Or that a friend has shared with you?