My Life Is Not About My Happiness

Life is not fair.

The Bible is full of hard commands. Things like “submit” and “rejoice always” (like, even when your baby refuses to go to sleep at 3:00 a.m.)

Sometimes Often I’d much rather sulk and hold a pity party than rejoice.

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A dear friend, who was going through marital difficulties, once told me, “marriage is not for happiness, it’s for holiness.

Ideally, marriage should be bursting with happiness since it is a glorious picture of Christ and His church. (I am very blessed to be in a marriage that is wonderfully happy!)

However, her words have stuck with me because they carry a truth that is so foreign in modern America: happiness is not a right.

God did not put us on this earth so that we could do whatever we wanted to please ourselves. No matter how loudly my selfish nature screams the contrary, my life is ultimately not about my happiness.

There is an even greater good than happiness, holiness.

Often times, God says “no” to our earnest prayers because He is more concerned about our holiness than we are and because He wants us to find our happiness in Him, not all the things we think we need to be happy.

Linked up at Mama MomentsGrowing HomeEncourage One AnotherWalking Redeemed, Our Simple Country Life, & Proverbs 31

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  1. says

    Hi Anna! I like what you said about God not putting us on this earth to please ourselves. It’s amazing how our flesh wants something ALL THE TIME! Your body does need rest, however, in order to do the things God has called you to do. Will there be any more Thrifty Thursdays? I miss those! Thanks for sharing! Blessings from Bama!

    • anna says

      Thanks for “stopping by”! The kiddos keep begging for us to take them back to Bama to visit. 🙂

      Yes—if only it were a once for all struggle, right?! And I agree, after many bouts of struggling with insomnia (and babies who want to play in the night) I fully believe that sleep is one of God’s greatest gifts to mankind!

      I’m not sure! I’d like to start doing a link-up again, but am still trying to decide the future goals of this little blog.

  2. says

    Anna, this is SO true and convicting!

    Your words remind me of the books “Sacred Marriage” and “Sacred Parenting”, by Gary Thomas, in which he makes the point that God is more interested in our holiness than our happiness. Marriage and parenting are simply TOOLS for that sanctification process to take place. A far cry from what the culture leads us to believe!

    • anna says

      Indeed it is! It really is amazing how many spiritual disciplines (like patience) I foolishly thought I had a decent handle on before becoming a wife and mother! Oh the naivety and pride. Sometimes I think God must sit in heaven and chuckle as He shows me just how MUCH I have to learn… and how desperately I need Him.

  3. says

    What a great reminder… and I, too, often need reminded of this truth! It is so easy to get caught up in the world’s view of life and happiness. In the end, it will be clear that holiness is the highest form of happiness.

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