Motherhood is one of the most wonderful, but challenging, journeys it’s possible for a woman to undertake.
Stacks of parenting books and years of babysitting experience cannot adequately prepare you for every challenge that will arise as you seek to raise your children in the “fear and nurture of the LORD.”
Raising our children in God’s fear requires God’s wisdom. Thankfully, He gives His wisdom liberally to those ask.
My lack of answers was driven home to me early in my journey of motherhood. Most vivid in my mind is our “Yes ma’am” battle.
Joshua and I decided we really liked how respectful [many of the] children in the South are and their quick and cheerful “Yes ma’am” or “No sir”. We wanted Rose, then three, to start saying it too.
For some reason I can’t figure out, it became a battle. A huge battle. We’d be enjoying a lovely morning together when I’d ask her to say “Yes ma’am” and suddenly her whole mood changed. I tried everything I could think of. I read parenting books and asked our moms for advice. Nothing worked. After weeks (maybe it was just days, but it sure felt like weeks) of this losing battle, I was desperate
I asked God for wisdom.
Before even getting up from my knees, the solution was clear.
Rose and I sat down and talked about authority. We talked about how she and Will are under our authority, I am under Joshua’s, we’re all under civil and ecclesiastical authority and most especially under God’s authority. I explained that even though Joshua and I are grown and no longer have to obey our parents we still seek to respect them and ask them for advice.
It’s still amazing to me, but from that moment, her attitude completely changed. She said “Yes ma’am!” with a smile and a kiss. I no longer dreaded asking her to do something.
Many times since then a motherhood challenge has left me stumped and desperate (and my oldest is only pushing six!) Many times I’ve been forced to my knees. God has never failed yet.
James 1:5 promises, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.”
It’s a promise I’ve claimed many times since entering this wonderful journey of motherhood and one I’m sure I’ll need to rely on many times more.
Linked up at Mama Moments, Growing Home, Encourage One Another, Walking Redeemed, Our Simple Country Life, & Proverbs 31