Laying awake in bed as the minutes tick past and turn to hours despite desperately trying to just fall asleep is agonizing and exhausting. No amount of coffee can make up for the utter sleepiness restless nights create. Unfortunately, sleepless nights aren’t limited to exam time or welcoming home a new baby.

Insomnia, or difficulty initiating or maintaining sleep, is one of the most common health complaints and affects over one third of all adults at some point or another.

Widely different underlying causes all produce insomnia. Anxiety or excitement often causes difficulty in going to sleep. Depression has the opposite effect, tending to wake you up early in the morning, tired but unable to sleep. Of course, chronic pain makes sleep difficult and some people (like me) have always had difficulty getting to sleep.

Thankfully, there are many things that we can do to overcome insomnia.

Develop good sleep hygiene: Oftentimes the main culprit for insomnia is simply poor sleep habits. Although some circumstances make it impossible, for most of us, our sleep patterns are a choice.

  • Get up earlier, consistently: the point is more sleep, but by consistently getting up earlier, you start to get your body into a rhythm and are actually able to fall asleep come bedtime.
  • Spend time outside, in the morning: not only are the UV rays less damaging before the sun reaches it’s hottest, morning sunshine helps get your body into circadian rhythm and initiate sleep at night. On the other hand, if you’re waking up too early, try getting sunlight  later in the day.
  • Exercise regularly: The benefits of exercise are abundant and one of them is  that exercise helps you rest better… just make sure it’s not too late in the day. Exercising close to bedtime can pump too much adrenaline into the body and make falling asleep more difficult.
  • Get comfortable: A good pillow makes a big difference. In the winter, make sure you’re warm enough before heading to bed.
  • Go to bed at a reasonable time: a good schedule makes getting to sleep much easier. Plus, if you wait ’til you’re “beyond tired” to get to bed it can be more difficult to initiate sleep.

If you have trouble getting to sleep, find a relaxation method that works for you.

  • Read a book: If your mind begins to race the moment you hit the pillow, bring a (non-fiction) book to bed. Not only does it whittle down the “must-read” pile, but keeps your mind from replaying the events of the day for the fiftieth time.
  • Listen to music or a story from Librivox: Like reading, it relaxes the mind, but you get to have your eyes closed. Just make sure the story isn’t overly intriguing. A boring station on the radio works wonders too!
  • Meditate on a passage of Scripture or poem you’ve memorized.
  • Breath deeply: deep, cleansing breaths help calm the body.
  • Relax your body systematically: start with your face and methodically work down to your toes to release the tension that builds throughout the day. Relax your eye brows and sink your fingers into the pillow. My midwife coached me in this during my long labors but it works wonderfully for inducing sleep too!
  • Keep paper and pen by the bed: That way if a nagging thought or great idea comes to mind you can write it down and deal with it in the morning.

Certain foods and herbs can improve sleep.

  • Eat light at night: While we sleep our digestive system is hard at work, so lighter evening meals make the body’s job easier and produce more restful sleep. Avoid food right before heading to bed.
  • Foods high in calcium, carbohydrates or tryptophan (a sleep-inducing amino acid) like dairy, whole grains and nuts make especially good dinner and evening snack choices.
  • Aromatherapy: the scents of lavender, chamomile or ylang ylang supposedly induce sleep, quickly.
  • Valerian, a hardy perennial herb, works as a natural sedative. When all other methods failed for me, Valerian has worked. Unlike Unisom (my previous measure-of-last-resort), it does not make me feel jittery. Just calm. Even if circumstances out of my control, like a sick baby, keep me from getting a full night’s sleep, I still wake up feeling calm and rested. Deemed a safe, non-toxic herb, there are still a few possible side effects, and should be used in moderation.

Do you ever struggle with insomnia? What do you do to overcome it?

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…and feed your child Twinkies.

The search for the elixir of health spans centuries. In the mid-1800s Sylvester Graham invented a wonder food: the graham cracker. This simple cracker was part of his cure for alcoholism and sexual desires. Rumor had it his bland diet (which banned meat and spices) would indefinitely lengthen your lifespan. His enthusiastic following was somewhat dampened when he died at 57.

Nature will castigate those who don’t masticate,” claimed Horace Fletcher, last century’s impassioned advocate of mastication. Mastication, or the chewing of food, became a health craze due to his zealous work. He preached that you should chew each piece of food 32-100 times and not swallow until your bite of solids turned to liquids. Supposedly, it took him 45 minutes to properly masticate an apple. Even liquids should be “chewed” in order to digest them properly. This, he claimed, would give health, lengthen life and help save the world. When he died at 69 his theories gave way to calorie counting.

The temptation to worship at the altar of Hygieia, goddess of health, has not lost force today. Health standards have replaced the moral standards of the 50′s. Whereas a girl in the 50′s would have been plagued by guilt over sexual impurity, today food impurity has taken its place.

While feeding our families healthy nourishing foods is a worthwhile pursuit as mothers and homemakers, we must guard against health idolatry.

The Scriptures teach that it isn’t what we eat, but our thoughts and actions that defile us. Even a diet of Twinkies wouldn’t defile our souls (and you might even live as long as Sylvester Graham!) Our bodies weren’t made to live forever and no diet’s going to make that happen.

Gratitude turns the focus from the food to the Giver of the food. Sometimes, the best choices are prohibitively expensive, but hunger satiated with less-than-organic meals is cause for gratitude.  God has provided more than all that we need.

While His Creation is lush with fresh fruits and teems with fish, He has given us “all [foods] richly to enjoy”, including decadently rich and chewy brownies. If you like them, the flavor of Twinkies reminds us of the goodness of God, and is another cause for gratitude.

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Happy Indepence Day

I hope you had a wonderful celebration of our freedom with family, friends and fireworks.

We enjoyed fireworks which were, in the words of my toddler, “As big as my Papa!”

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It was one of those lovely spring days. The counter and table were covered in strawberries. For years I’d helped make jam and this time convinced my mom that I could finish this batch alone. I was thirteen.

All was going well. The jars were sterilized, jam made and the water bath canner was boiling away when the timer rang.

It was time to get the jars of jam out, but I couldn’t find the canning-jar-lifter. Anywhere.

I panicked.

Rather than running to find my mom, I found two forks and tried to lift a can out. It didn’t work. Desperate, I grabbed an oven mitt. Surely that would protect me from the boiling hot water, right?

Slipping my hand into the mitt, I stuck it into the boiling water and grabbed the first jar.

The burning reality hit just as I pulled it out of the pot right over my bare feet. Reason, who had abandoned me to this point, returned for a moment and kept me from dropping glass and boiling jam on my toes. Then, just as quickly, Reason fled.

Worried that 37 seconds too long in the water would ruin the jam, I stuck my poorly defended hand back into the pot for the second jar, then the third…

Just as I pulled out the last jar, my mom came back into the kitchen. Impressed isn’t quite the right word.

In less than a minute my hand was soaking in ice water and Mom had taken over the kitchen.

After about twelve hours of ice water (and as many slices of strawberry-jam-lathered-bread) my fingers finally stopped stinging.

Moral of the story: never make jam without the canning-jar-lifter standing close by.

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Eppli Caka, or “Apple Cake”, was a traditional dessert growing up in the Faroe Islands. Still a favorite at my parent’s home, it is such a delicious healthy and simple dessert…. or breakfast!

Ingredients:

  • Applesauce (homemade is definitely tastiest!)
  • Granola (again, homemade wins!)
  • 1-2 apples, cored and diced (optional)
  • Whipped cream
  • Chocolate (optional)

Alternate layers of applesauce, granola and apples. Top with whipped cream and sprinkle with chocolate chips. Serve immediately.

My granola recipe:

Combine:
5 cups oatmeal
1/2 cup whole wheat flour
1/3 cup powdered milk
1/3 cup coconut
1/3 cup chopped almonds (opt.)
1/4 cup ground flax seed
Combine, and add to dry ingredients:
1/2 cup oil
1/2 cup honey
1/4 cup water
1/2 T vanilla

Bake in a 9×13 pan at 300 for one hour, stirring every 15 minutes.

part of Tasty Tuesday and Tempt my Tummy Tuesday

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Favorite Read-A-Louds

Since I seem to be stuck in the children’s room at the moment, I thought I’d share a few of our favorite books:

Finding a child’s rendition of the great Bible stories that sticks to the story and has good drawings is a challenge. (I’m convinced that David looked nothing like a Precious Moments doll!) This series comes pretty close.

This is a tale of a little bird who hatched while his mother searching for food for him. He sets off to find her. After a long fruitless hunt, he is plopped back in his nest just as the mother bird flies home.

The minimalistic drawings  are adorable and the innocent bird “hero” claims sympathy instantly. Be careful though, we hadn’t read this one in a while and my toddler actually had tears running down her face while we waited to see if he would find his mother. It’s a good thing he does! Far from minimalistic, Fancy Nancy’s bedroom made me cringe. She must have at least one hundred outfits, but the story overcame my initial resistance. The theme: “‘I love you’—there isn’t a fancy, or better, way of saying that!’”

Chinese drawings and proverbs add spice to this story of two men: one wealthy and the other poor. In the end, they both realize that “peace and happiness” are greater treasures than endless bags of gold.

I have fond memories of reading this book with my mom. Illustrated with Eloise Wilkin’s charming artwork, it chronicles two siblings’ ordinary day of helping mommy. Everyday life can be an adventure too!

A classic. And so terribly funny. And like motherhood: one thing leads to another. Always.

What are some of your favorite children stories? Do you know of any good missionary or hero stories?

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While beginning the task of packing for the summer, I started to worry about leaving our home for such a long time. What if someone breaks in while we’re gone?

I quickly realized however, that there wouldn’t be much to tempt a burglar. The laptops, my two pieces of expensive jewelry and the scrapbooks are coming with us. (Scrapbooks are on the most stolen list, right?)

We don’t have (or want) a flatscreen tv,  any consoles or video games or an antique collection and we’ve experienced firsthand a burglar’s opinion of our musical tastes.

Until our first Christmas together, we hardly gave burglars a second thought. Then on Christmas Eve when we went to get in the car for a morning service, the passenger door was slightly ajar. Looking inside, the seats were covered in papers from the glove box and a gaping whole replaced the car stereo. Not exactly the best Christmas present–for us at least.

To make it even worse, we noticed that the burglar had rummaged through the cds in the car. But as we put them all back it was clear that not a single one had been stolen. How insulting! What’s wrong with Gilbert & Sullivan, Ray Vaughn William’s orchestral arrangments or operas, pray tell?

After that, we religiously locked our car…until one night two weeks later. We forgot. Once again we had a visit. Apparently, the burglar was looking for the remote. He didn’t find it. Rose had claimed it as her own personal phone and hardly parted from it for months. Nothing seemed to be stolen, but when we got to church and reached for the box of Altoids, we realized we hadn’t escaped unscathed.

He stole our Altoids. Of all the nerve!

Moral of the story: Buy Altoids, but lock your car doors.

Note to would-be burglars: We’re even taking the Altoids with us. Sorry! Interested in Criminal Law? We are leaving a few textbooks behind.

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Summer is fully here and with summer comes plans of travel.

Joshua winds up his first half of summer clerkship tomorrow and then we’re headed out of state to stay with family for a month and a half while he does legal research.

Extended trips take preparation. Especially if you’ll be gone for weeks.

Even if you’ll just be gone for a few days, a bit of preparation saves money and makes the return more welcoming.

The weekend away to do list:

  1. Do a quick clean: just 15 minutes spent washing the dishes and wiping down the bathroom makes coming home much more pleasant.
  2. Water the garden and indoor plants.
  3. Turn the air conditioning up (or the heat down. ) No need to keep the spiders cool!
  4. Unplug unnecessary appliances. Just having them plugged in takes electricity.
  5. Finish the milk and anything else in the fridge that’s likely to go bad quickly.
  6. Empty all trashes: otherwise the ants might take it as an invitation.
  7. Put dinner in the freezer for the night you get home.
  8. Leave an energy efficient light on and lock the door!

If you’re going to be gone for an extended time, a bit more planning is in order, but definitely worth it!

10 things to do before an extended trip:

  1. Clear out the fridge: for a few weeks before a long planned trip, focus on eating from the fridge and pantry. It uses up food that might otherwise go bad and saves on the grocery bill!
  2. Bug-proof your pantry. Store food in buckets, glass jars or the fridge.
  3. Wash and dry all the laundry. It makes packing easier and avoids moldy stinky clothes. Leave the washing machine lid open. A bit of residue water collects in the machine (at least my model.) Let it air out while you’re gone to avoid mold.
  4. Leave a clean house. An empty house is temptation enough for bugs, unwashed dishes and a dirty bathroom make it even worse! Maybe even set a few bug traps…
  5. Be energy smart: Unplug unused appliances, turn up the A/C and turn the water heater to “vacation.”
  6. Ask a neighbor or friend to keep an eye on things and water the garden or indoor plants.
  7. Make sure valuables are with you or safely stored.
  8. Have your mail held: you can do it easily online at the USPS website.
  9. Plan for your return: have dinner and bread in the freezer to make unpacking easier and last until you restock the fridge!
  10. Don’t forget the kids! in the midst of the packing take a break and relax with the munchkins.

Have you traveled this summer or do you have big plans? What do you do to make the return better?

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Be a Hairstylist

Cutting my family’s hair is one of those things I would still do if I were a millionaire.

“Hair-cutting day” formed part of the regular routine in my mom’s home. About once a month, she pulled out the hair cutting supplies. My dad and brothers never set foot in a salon.

I soon wanted in on the action, but my brothers never let me come close. Once, while a brother was in the middle of a haircut, I snuck in behind and grabbed the scissors determined to learn. Before I snipped one tuft, my brother realized it was me and cried, “Stop! I don’t want to be your guinea pig.”

I was thirteen – and devastated.

Years passed but still they obstinately refused to let me “practice” on them. My hands were untried when Joshua and I got engaged. He has seven brothers. His mom always cut their hair. You can imagine just how experienced she is. But, thankfully, he entrusted his hair to my care. (What choice did he have?!)

Obviously, cutting your family’s hair is the frugal route. A cheap men’s haircut runs $10 around here.

All you really need to do your own haircuts is a pair of scissors and comb, but a simple kit makes the task simple and produces good consistent results.

The best way to learn is obviously by watching. You could go to the salon and study the stylist, but youtube has scores of free tutorials with instructions ranging from conservative cuts to dyed Mohawks. The library is also a great resource.

I cut Joshua’s hair about every four to six weeks. That’s almost $100 saved yearly. Over the years, that adds up—especially if you have eight sons!

Even if money weren’t an issue, these reasons would keep me snipping away.

  • Convenience: You are not confined to the hairstylist’s schedule. I can cut Joshua’s hair at 10:00 Saturday night or fit in a haircut right after breakfast on Monday morning.
  • Time saved: No need drive to the appointment and wait while the stylist finishes another client. Now that I know exactly what Joshua wants, it takes less than twenty minutes to cut and clean up. (And those minutes are minutes that I get to spend with my busy husband. Why would I want someone else to?!)
  • Creativity: Homemaking encompasses an array of skills. Each one is an adventure and broadens our scope of abilities. If you’re cutting a wiggly toddler’s hair, try the bath. Their hair is already wet and they are preoccupied. A sleeping baby is even easier.
  • Satisfaction: Not only the satisfaction of getting the exact style your husband wanted, but the satisfaction that comes from mastering a skill.

I don’t foresee ever giving up cutting my guy’s hair, but am not so sure about my own. I have cut my own hair twice. Once was my favorite haircut ever. The other the worst. Usually I just talk my mom into cutting it.
What about you? Do you cut your family’s hair? What about your own?

part of Thrify Thursday and Frugal Friday

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Gardening means hard work, sweat and weeks of waiting for that first sun-ripened bite of produce… with the hope of many baskets full of peas, tomatoes and squash to follow.

But what if the garden doesn’t produce as well as you hoped? What if the produce you reap barely repays the minimal costs you incurred? Is it still worth it?

Powdery Mildew attacked the zucchini and squash plants. Just as they were reaching the zenith of their producing power, they died. Yesterday we enjoyed the last of the zucchini from this year’s garden. My hopes of a freezer full of shredded zucchini won’t be realized and many of the remaining vegetables will not be ripe before we leave the garden in friends’ hands for a month.

Disappointed? Yes. Was it worth it? Definitely!


Planting a seed and watching it sprout, grow and blossom makes me stand in awe of God’s creation. I believe the world was spoken into existence. Wonder of creation should keep me dizzy with awe. I forget. Easily. Gardening reminds me.

Seeds are cheaper (and more fun!) than a child’s science textbook and open the door to countless questions about life cycles, biology and nature. The weeks of waiting for that first flower to appear open the door to learn about patience. The peas Rose happily hunted for and popped in her mouth were a wonderful bonus.

One of my goals for the year was to spend considerably more time outside than in the past. A garden forces you to get outside, breath in the fresh air and bask in the vitamin D! Gardening not only gets you outside, but is good exercise!

Finally, the garden was worthwhile because it encourages gratitude. Not only gratitude for the amazing variety of vegetables or a big glass of ice water after an hour’s hard work, but that even if my garden fails, we still have food to eat. My children will not go vegetable-less because my zucchini died. For that I am very grateful.

I have had successful gardens in the past, but think that even a failed garden is worth-while.

What do you think?

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